Hey whassup,
Alright in response to your last post.....but first are u an accountant? Being as you are very busy during this time of the year.
moving on, about the polygamy thing,
first you said \"Polygamy counteracts all the above problems you raised by linking sexual variety to responsibility so basically ?that thing? is a no go area unless you are willing to marry it\"
This argument can be debunked by a mere sentence, resolving to polygamy will in no way bestow a sense of responsibility on individuals.
There is no connection, Africans do not give away free brides, and getting a woman pregnant does not equal marriage. I mean even in the northern part of Nigeria where sharia law is in effect and where polygamy is still ongoing, when a woman gets pregnant before marriage, she is sentenced to death rather than forcing the guy to marry her. I know this is a stretch, but polygamy does not mean more responsibility and would not encourage self-restrain, there is no evidence to support that.
You said \"As per the issue of ratio in terms of numbers everybody who is interested in the demographics of Africa knows that there are more women compared to men, this is even the case globally.\"
If you re-read my post, I was disagreeing with your statement that this was because men are dying due to AIDS and what not.
You said \" The question you should ask is, are there ?babies mamas? in polygamous societies? The answer is a resounding hell no ? the reason is obvious. ?Babies mamas? are mainly the result of this illusion of the monad Reaganite individual who lacks any sense of the social consequences of their action. Polygamy is usually practised in more egalitarian, communitarian and socially cohesive cultures.\"
Are there baby mamas in polygamous societies? In the past many African societies were deeply governed by religion, and if you look at Muslim societies for example. Nowadays, people have sex anywhere and anytime. Just because you tell somebody you can marry more than one wife does not mean that they will stop having sex with anybody that is not there wife. People engage in sexual activities today than in the past, and I don\'t see how polygamy is a solution to this problem.
You said \"But in an individualistic self-serving society people can be about ?that thing? with no sense of responsibility so there is nothing holding them back.\"
What exactly is holding them back? The fact that they can marry more than one wife?? Come on now, that is ridiculous, if you tell a guy he can marry more than one wife, I don\'t see him interpreting that as If I sleep with a woman, I will have to marry her, or I can only sleep with a woman who happens to be my wife.
You Said \" I do not see what aids and safe sex have to do with this since the same rule applies whether in monogamous or polygamous societies.\"
AIDS and Safe sex has everything to do with \"Baby Mamas,\" I mean isn\'t that where you are basing your solution from? As I understand it, you are stating that the application or rather re-instating of polygamy will reduce the problem of baby mamas. Teaching people about the effects and causes of AIDS and promoting safe sex will also decrease baby mamas, because there would no kids to mama over.
You said \"Look at it this way, that very thing which scares you and me about polygamy is the biggest safe sex of all because it is not imposed externally.\"
\"the biggest safe sex?\" I have one thing to say-----> WHAT?? No, what deters me from polygamy is the idea that I have to share my man/husband with another woman, while he is allowed to get all of me.
That is a big no no in my book. I\'d rather stay unmarried.
Talk to you later...I believe this is still Sir Festus..